In my Life Coaching sessions clients have found time outs to be a very effective tool when they are angry or upset with someone or something.
People wanting to move forward in their lives this way often. So clients are also prone to reacting in ways that aggravate this situation rather than defuse it.
Passionate people sometimes want to stomp and tromp.
Here is how my clients take a time out, when they feel incensed; they allow themselves a chunk of time to cool off.
They found a good start was to write down exactly what they 'might' have done or said at the height of their fury or upset.
They found that in itself this helped dissipate some of the anger.
Interesting, when they read it later on, they got a sobering picture of what 'might' have occurred had they not declared their cooling off period. they also realized how easy it was to over react.
This cooling down is a way of responding not reacting.
Clients expressed that cooling off does not man suppressing their stress, so it is still smoldering, bubbling and festering underneath.
It means letting go, releasing and giving themselves time to vent their heated emotions in a more gradual safer way.
One client used the metaphor of releasing air out a balloon at tis opening, not popping it with a pin.
Don't get hot around the collar, think cool and take a time out!